Quiet n a Bluesy Nite

I recalled a verse quoted by a close friend of mine, it goes:

A fool finds no pleasure in understanding but delights in airing his own opinions. (Proverbs 18:2)

Reflecting oh this verse, i couldnt agree more to this verse. Afterall, this verse was given through King Solomon, who is the wisest man who held the most understanding during his time.

Many a times, situations seen gathered heads debating certain issues (and non-issues) that are to be addressed at that point of time. Or someone needed a couple of advice from a group of buddies. Out of my ol' habit, i am contented by observing and listening to understand and reflect the proceeding conversation.

Well, i honestly wonder if some of the debate points , advice, opinions and arguments are necessary and well-meaning. Some people may disagree but i sincerely suspect many opinions or advice are formulated just so to reflect the "intelligence" or "maturity" of the speaker.

There are times these "listeners" (they really should listen more than they speak) present were so eager to juice out whatever opinions / advice they had in them. Without thinking. Without the wanting and openness to understand first the issue. Without looking at the bigger picture. Without first listening to what others have to say. The way i hear them, opinions are sometimes voiced on the basis of appearing intellectual.

Opinions are just a package to disguise under-current egos.

Worse yet, most of these "intellectual" opinions are just..well..opinions that don't really contribute anything at all..they do not empathize with the real issue at hand or function as potential solutions. Sometimes, they merely create confusion; side-tracking the real issue or sweeping the issue under the carpet! (Malaysian style,huh!).

Everyone is looking for the chance to appear intellectual, hence let's all race to see who can give the most intellectual , never-thought-of opinions? Suddenly, the entire perspective is shifting towards people to sound intellectual and clever. The original subject of matter had long been side-lined. Sad..

Sayings like "Walk the Talk" or "Actions speaks louder than Words" are so true! Likewise, the credibility of the person must come first before we may accept and respect his opinion and advice.